A few years ago my daughter went through a similar stage. In a moment of both tears and intense Mom guilt, I took to google to find the answers. At that time, I read an article by a parenting educator that spoke about the importance of quality time over quantity of time when it comes to 'filling our children's tanks'. It stuck with me that 10-engaged, present, all-in moments were better than 100 hardly there moments.
I know we each have our own views and perspectives of parenthood. What I do know is the moments that I spend 100% engaged with my children, even if just for a few quick minutes, due to the busy day, are the moments they share back when I ask "What was your favourite part of today?" at bedtime. I also know that as I lay in bed reflecting on my day - that is also the moment that arises for me when I ask myself the same question.
I have decided I need to spend 5-10 minutes before I have to leave the room, or head to work to sit down and give my little one 100% attention. I know this will fill both our "tanks" and as I depart, he may still cling to me, but I will know that we will both cherish those moments before. My 'tank' will also be that much more full which I find helps manage the Mom-guilt I feel in the moment.
Mom guilt is a tricky thing - my hope is this strategy will support me in managing it and best supporting my littlest one through this stage.
What has been your experience with separation anxiety? How do you best support your little one? How do you best support yourself?