So far in life, as a mother-daughter team, I have done most of the "work" and she has been my helper. I realized that with all her planning and ideas, she was ready to take on the lead role and I challenged myself to show up as her helper. I told myself I would just do what she asked me to (she is an impressive delegator :). I will be honest that for a personality like me that is a challenging thing to do.
It was one of the most rewarding days I have ever had with her. She baked the cake (except the parts that involved the oven, and when she asked me to write DAD! in icing) but otherwise it was 100% her work and creation. I challenged myself not to jump in and save her. I let her sort it out and problem solve, asking for help when she felt she needed it.
The absolute and utter pride on her face when her Dad returned from work to his 'party' made my heart explode. She was so excited to show him all the decorations she had made and placed exactly where she wanted them. She was so proud the cake SHE had made for him.
As I reflect on Monday I realize the true power of holding someone capable (and, man, my toddler is capable - while beautiful it was a bit of a sad "my baby is growing up" moment as well).
In life we so regularly jump in to save someone, suggest, direct, and help. What would it look like if we showed up to a situation 100% supportive but held back providing just the support that person asked for (and needed in the moment)?
My favourite question when working with a team or a direct report is, "What support do you need from me?" It gives insight into how you can show up to really make the person feel supported (rather than what you think they need). Taking that practice home made a forever lasting memory on my home and family.
What support do you need? How can you communicate that to your support system?