Today's theme is all about what I like to call No-perience. What we are going to focus on is our own personal experience in saying no. Taking a moment to look at our past history with saying no - what worked and what didn't can power us forward to use strategies that have already worked for us and learn from those that didn't.
Firstly, I want you to think back on the last three months of your life and highlight the moments you remember saying no. Revisit each of them and document:
- How you said no
- How you felt when you said it
- How it was received
From there look for similarities in the way you said no, which moments are you most proud of and why? Which moments are you least proud of and why?
How will you use the best moments to spur you forward in saying no?
What can you learn from the moments you are least proud of how you showed up? What does that tell you about how you will show up in the future?
The last thing I want you to look at in your No-perience is to highlight your stress level and the level of pressure you felt in each situation. Often there can be a link as to how we show up and say no (or don't but want to) in high pressure or stress situations. When you think through those moments,
- What are you proud of?
- What do you not want to repeat? How can you avoid that in the future?
After you have done a deep dive into your No-perience I encourage you to take some time out and reward yourself!
Have a great day!