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This year I was looking for a way to keep positivity, creativity, and a focus on happiness a part of my family's daily life, so together we created a celebration jar.
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Whether it is replacing your lunchtime gym routine for holiday lunches, your family movie night for your friend's last minute Christmas party, or your Sunday family routine by holiday errands and commitments, it is easy to have your priorities fall to the bottom of list during the holiday season.
Many of us start the fresh, new year feeling exhausted, burnt out, and stressed from the schedule and commitments that we create for ourselves during December.
How do you create balance during the holidays? It starts with determining who is setting the schedule (likely you), and what is influencing you to try to cram everything in (external pressures perhaps? fear of disappointing others?).
For many of us it is difficult to say no, me included!
Here are some strategies for creating a little bit of balance during the holidays:
What strategies work for you to create balance during the busy holiday season?
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I remember my University days, pulling all-nighters and bouncing back the next day. As I have aged the all-nighter has become less and less appealing. Now, the only all-nighters I pull are 'child-led' - a.k.a. teething, stomach flu, bad dreams... the list goes on.
After a particularly poorly timed all-nighter last night, I decided to turn to the internet to find some tips on how the effectively pull an all-nighter. Everything I found was targeted at University students, but I was able to pull some interesting bits from wikiHow, and thought I would share some of what I found...
1. Drink glasses of cold water every 30 minutes,
2. Instead of trying not to yawn, try laughing,
3. Eat protein rich foods,
4. Nap wherever possible,
5. Open the windows - let in the fresh air, and
6. Think positive thoughts.
What are your tips for managing the day after a child-led all-nighter?
Yesterday was World Gratitude Day, and I was travelling home from a week working in the rural North West region of Bosnia-Herzegovina during some major flooding. As I sat in transit home from the airport I felt surrounded by gratitude. I was grateful for everything I saw around me, everything I heard, everyone I saw, and for the week I just had.
Sometimes life can get in the way, we can allow ourselves to get caught up in the negative, but there truly is, "...always something to be thankful for."
What are you grateful for? How can you channel that when you feel yourself getting pulled in a more negative direction?
Last week my husband and I both had to travel for business during the same three days. Due to some hiccups in plan A, B, and C, we ended up with plan D, my daughter accompanying me on my trip. All four plans took a lot of creativity, and admittedly we were "high fiving" ourselves for sorting through it.
As travel day arrived and we pulled onto the highway, about 10 minutes from our home, she was sick to her stomach. For her, sometimes being rushed in the morning does that, so a quick pull over, some water, a change of clothing and some cuddles later, we continued on our way. As I pulled from the service centre back on to the highway, it happened again. This wasn't morning rush, this was a bug. All planning and juggling was slowly crumbling around me... I felt tears welling up in my eyes, pulled over, tidied her up, and headed for home, which turned into a few more stops along the way.
Now what? What I wanted to do was cry, stomp my feet, and be disappointed, so I gave myself thirty minutes to do it in. When my alarm beeped, thirty minutes was up, and I needed to reframe the situation I was in. My reframe, "Hey, I came up with this super, awesome creative solution in the first place, looks like I have another challenge waiting...GO!"
So I sorted it out through email, conference call, Skype, FaceTime, and file sharing. I was able to get everything done that needed to be done, while taking care of my first priority, my daughter.
So, as it says, "If Plan A didn't work. The alphabet has 25 more letters! Stay cool." Rise to the challenge, reframe the situation, get creative, because you can always make it work.
Oh yes, and don't forget on those days when you are into plan B, C...S...Z, carve some time out that evening for you - a bath, a book, a seat in front of the fire, whatever it is give back to yourself and recharge.
I get into cooking ruts. Anyone else? I find when I am excited about what I am cooking it feels like me time, but when I am cooking the same old it feels like a chore.
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Last night I participated in Good Night Sleep Site Halton's Sunday Night Sleep Clinic (Check it out on Facebook - every Sunday from 8-9pm EDT). A thread was open and available for your transition questions for an hour, and I received a great question around reducing the guilt and anxiety around that first daycare drop off.
Here are a few of my tips...
(1) Prepare to show up as your most confident self. How do you feel your most confident? For me blowdrying my hair can make a world of difference! Also, for me, taking time to eat breakfast helps. When you have to tackle a transition, being your most confident self will take you far!
(2) Build in some special time before and after daycare with your little one. You can carry those special moments throughout the day with you, and look forward to the end of the day together.
(3) Give yourself permission to feel. Try writing yourself a permission slip, like the many you will write for your children in the coming years. What permission do you need to give yourself to make it through drop off? What about the work day? Write it down on a scrap of paper, post-it note, or back of a receipt and put it in your pocket. When those emotions surface during the day, pull it out and remind yourself. An example? " I give myself permission to cry today." or "I give myself permission to drop off at daycare today and walk away."
(4) Plan a celebration for the end of the first day of daycare, or the end of your first work week with daycare. Research shows us the anticipation of an event is even more powerful vs. actually living it. Plan that time you have next weekend now, so you can begin thinking about those great times you will have with your family.
What are your tips for managing that first daycare drop off?
When I visualize key moments in my life I often find a soundtrack begins to play. Music for me can be white noise, it can be healing, it can provide answers, and it can be an escape.
Today as I was climbing a rather steep hill on my morning run, ready to give up, Colbie Caillat told me through her lyrics to keep going, and so I did. Often during my runs music is white noise for me, but in that moment, the perfect moment, I tuned in and heard what I needed to. Music was able to push me forward.
I remember a drive from Toronto to Sault Saint Marie to visit a friend. For the entire 8-hour drive I played, on repeat, a CD I had made and I sang along at the top of my lungs. It was a true healing journey.
How does music motivate you? How does it help you heal?
I think of my drives to the office, sometimes I loved the music on the radio, other times I was so frustrated with the stations - flipping through all my presets trying to find what I needed in that moment. Our commute time is important time. It sets us up for how we will feel upon arrival at the office, and upon arrival home.
What if you put together a playlist for your commute to work and a playlist for your drive home. What type of music would get you ready for the workday? What type of music would get you ready to arrive home as your best self? How can music help to bridge those daily transitions?
In the words of Hans Christian Andersen, "Where words fail, music speaks."
Happy Labour Day!
Tomorrow marks the start of another school year. I fondly remember my back to school days. A couple weeks in advance my parents would begin to add more structure, routine and earlier bedtimes. They would take me back to school shopping to get a fresh supply of pens, pencils, binders, and paper, and don't forget a new outfit or two. We would get haircuts, new shoes, and spend extra time together the weekend before as a family.
Back to School time in my house was refresh time. It left me feeling confident upon my return.
As I entered the working world, there was no annual refresh time anymore and so it got neglected. I got a haircut here and there, bought a new top time and again, but I don't remember every having that full refresh feeling I did as a child. I recognize that it gave me the opportunity to start school feeling great about myself, having reassessed my style, having the dead ends of my hair cut off, and feeling rested and ready to go.
For those returning, what if we treated the return as that first day back at school? A structured routine in advance, get the sleep you need, trim off those dead ends, get an outfit for that first day back, and do something extra special on the days leading up with your family...
For those who aren't returning, or have already returned, how can this 'back to school ritual' be inserted once, twice, or three times a year into your family routine?
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