I wish their was a magic solution to Mamma Guilt, but there isn't. It is a tricky feeling to navigate, but what I know is that honouring my feelings, managing stress, and self-care are critical when I start to feel this way.
I spent the entire drive North on Sunday singing at the top of my lungs to some of my favourite music to manage my stress. I took my time, and I stopped and actually enjoyed a coffee in Starbucks in silence. I also gave myself permission to just feel whatever I was feeling. Lastly,I I told myself that when I arrived to the retreat, I was going to leave those feelings in the car. I decided that I would intentionally focus on what I was there to do, be in service to others. I visualized leaving those emotions and feelings in the car as I got out. Almost like leaving a layer in the car for later.
The thing is, intellectually, I know my family is completely fine (probably better than fine) with my husband caring for them. Emotionally is where I feel challenged. So, I will be kind to myself until I see them again this evening, when I plan to cover them both in kisses and hugs.
When you feel emotional challenge, how can you honour your feelings, manage the stress, and focus on self-care?